What's On My Nightstand (July Edition)

My Instagram algorithm has been picking up on a few things about me over the last month. 

1. I have been sucked into the World Cup (specifically Scotland, Cape Verde, and Norway). 
2. I'm solidly in perimenopause and content about symptoms makes me stop scrolling.
3. Fall is coming and I'm here for all of it.
4. Despite my doomscrolling tendencies, I feel a pull toward slower traditional life.

The last one is the one I want to focus on at the moment. It's the idea that turning pages of a paper book and forcing my brain to focus on something for longer than 5-20 seconds is a good thing. The idea that doing something with my hands (this month it has been baking pies) is better than scrolling through pictures of other people doing things. Remembering that taking the time to travel and see things in person, stopping to read the content at places like Kennedy Space Center, and making an effort to (re)connect with people that we normally keep up with through texting or social media is superior to "liking" someone's post or hurrying through an experience to get the picture-perfect shot. 

I've been thinking a lot about the fact that if I live to be 84, like my mother did, I'm over halfway there. I've been considering what I've done with the first 44 years of my life, and what I might want to do with the final 40...assuming I get that many. I'm asking myself what have I wasted time on (Instagram), and what do I want to spend time on (investing in people). My mom had 84 years on this earth, which sounds like a lot when you're young, and feels like not enough when the timeline is starting to slide down instead of up. 

This month I went to the funeral of the parent of a childhood friend, someone who drove me around in their family station wagon, took me camping, and welcomed me into their home. Strangely, I was somehow more prepared for my own parent to die than I was to see the parents of my friends start to go. Maybe because I've been actively watching my parents age, whereas, in my mind, my friends' parents are all perpetually younger because I haven't seen them since they were...my age.  

I'm in the sandwich season - still raising teenagers and while simultaneously caring for aging parents and in-laws. Receiving graduation announcements and wedding invitations for the children of my friends... while also responding to funeral notices. And in the meantime, trying to figure out who I am now, and actively preparing for whatever God calls me to in the future. I don't know what's next, but I think it's safe to say it's not passively scrolling on Instagram. 

Photos by C.G. Koens, onethousandpens.blogspot.com

In the meantime...I read. Although I was sucked into the World Cup, some of the games were...less intense. That's a nice way to say "slow," right? So when some of the games were 0-0 for a solid 45 minutes to an hour, I brought a book (and booklight) and relied on the Hubs to shout when something actually got interesting. Here's what got checked off the list in July, and yes, you might notice it's a lot of cozy mysteries, but that's what the brain said it wanted, so that's what it was fed. 

1. The Great Hippopotamus Hotel by Alexander McCall Smith -⭐⭐⭐⭐ It took 25 books, but Mma Makutsi finally came through on her own this time, with a little help from her talkative fancy shoes and a willingness to admit her tendency to assume the worst of a certain person who barely made the 50% cut at the Botswana Secretarial College. As someone who has read this series almost from the original release, it was fun to see her character develop beyond flying off the handle. I was glad that McCall Smith allowed Grace to show some growing maturity and self-awareness, and also to see Mma Ramotswe as a secondary character who was able to display a softer, gentle presence in the lives of two men who have been worn down and discouraged. All in all, another lovely addition to a beloved series. {Amazon Associates Link}
2. The Unselected Journals of Emma M. Lion, Vol. 7 (Audiobook) by Beth Brower - ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Yes, I read this in April. And no, I don't normally include books that are a re-read (especially when I just read them the same year!), but I got a free trial of Amazon Music for four months, and it included four audiobooks (something I don't normally do - my mind drifts and I don't focus on the book, so I'm not an audiobook fan). Since I knew I loved the Emma series, I decided to listen to Vol. 7 again, and the narrator did a great job with voices and the like. I still prefer reading Emma M. Lion to listening to it, but if you are a fan of listening, then by all means, give this one a shot! I enjoyed it just as much the second time through. {Amazon Associates Link}
3. Rest You Merry (A Peter Shandy Mystery) by Charlotte MacLeod - ⭐⭐⭐ I'd probably give this three-and-a-half stars if I could. It's not quite to the four-star level, but it was highly enjoyable and surprising. I got it for free as part of the Amazon Prime First Reads program for the month of June (it was the bonus book for the month, which they do at times) and enjoyed it more than I was expecting. Peter Shandy is a likable enough character, a slightly reclusive New England professor, who gains a sidekick along the way in Helen Marsh (who conveniently becomes Helen Marsh Shandy by book #2). The Christmas holidays are upon them, but the holiday cheer doesn't stop murder from happening. Nothing gruesome, enjoyable characters, decent plot, fun setting (college town/campus), I'd read another one. {Amazon Associates Link}
4. Midsummer Mysteries by Agatha Christie -   ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Five stars for the book cover binding and the end papers (daisies) on this special hardcover edition, and for being a fantastic, eye-catching addition to my bookshelf. Four-and-a-half stars for the stories within, nothing new, of course, just a collection of some of Christie's classics. Some more or less favorite, but still a great selection from the master storyteller. A wonderful summer read, and also not to be confused with Midsomer Murders (the delightful BBC mystery show). {Amazon Associates Link}
5. The Mysterious Affair of Judith Potts by Robert Thorogood - ⭐⭐⭐⭐ The newest addition to "The Marlow Murder Club" series ties up a lot of loose ends. Although there were a number of plotlines happening in this book, threading themselves throughout, some with origins that started in Book #1 (like Judith's mysterious past), but, as always, Thorogood does a great job of linking them together in ways that make you say, "Ah, how did I not see that?" For example, I didn't see the killer coming at all, so that was a bit of a twist. I did feel that Judith's primary/secondary (it was hard to tell which was more important at times) plot was a bit of a stretch (i.e., the photograph and old paper, the ties to her former in-laws, etc.), but not enough to make me not enjoy the book. I don't know if the author will write another book in this series (and this one does wrap everything up nicely), but I'm here for it if he continues. {Amazon Associates Link}
6. Theo of Golden (Audiobook) by Allen Levi - ⭐⭐⭐⭐ I'm honestly still processing this one. I had several friends recommend it, and I'm not usually one to jump on the bandwagon of books that everyone says "you must read," especially when it is found on celebrity book lists. But, much like I did with the Emma M. Lion series, I was willing to give it a shot when enough people I actually knew started raving about it. And I'm glad I did. The author has created a unique and beautiful story, weaving together the lives of characters from wide and varied backgrounds, incorporating Christian ideas and beliefs (primarily through the main character, Theo), but not in a threatening or overpowering way. Levi doesn't shy away from using profanity or incorporating the harsh realities life in the stories of his characters, but he does allow many of them to be impacted by the life of one man, who knows how to see people and loves them well. The ending was...totally unexpected. I mean, it's an old man, so I was prepared for his...exit, shall we say, but the events surrounding that (both right before, during, and after) were a gut punch. You have been warned. It is...a delightful book, one that I would recommend (the audiobook was actually fantastic - love the narrator!), but also, as I started out by saying, there's a lot to process. I almost feel bereft coming to the end of it. So there's that. {Amazon Associates Link}

And there we have it. Another month down, six more books checked off the list. I've actually increased my reading goal for the year (on Goodreads) because I didn't hit the normal slump this summer that I've encountered in the past (I'm not homeschooling year-round, for one thing, and I'm not processing the recent death of a parent for another). I've also recognized that I have an obscene amount of books in my personal library that I have not yet read for myself, so it's time to get serious and start working through those stacks and shelves, bins and baskets. 

What about you? 

How's your reading motivation been this summer? 

What was your favorite read in July? 

What's On My Nightstand (June 2026)

The Hubs and I spent almost the entire month of June in Florida, visiting family, seeing friends, dropping kids off for summer trips, even taking a couple of days to do Disney. Thanks to a family friend and an affordable house, we found ourselves based out of Orlando for most of the time, with a few day trips to both coasts. Since it's been almost a decade since it was just the two of us, we looked forward to some downtime sans kids. I optimistically packed a whole bag of books, thinking of all the time I would spend lounging around, reading through the stack that I brought. 

The reality was quite different. 

During the one week of actual vacation we allowed ourselves (the rest of the time I was working - the perks of a remote contracting job), I couldn't focus on any of the books (a mixture of being mentally fatigued and physically tired), and so I allowed myself to veg out screens. We watched old TV shows, we watched the YouTube live streams from the nightly rallies where our kids were, we watched the World Cup, we rented movies from Amazon, I turned off my phone timers for Facebook and Instagram and scrolled and scrolled and scrolled. Very few physical or digital pages were turned. And here's what I realized after a week of this...

I felt icky. 

My brain was more tired than when we started. My mind was more fractured. Rather than being rested and refreshed, I found myself craving normalcy and routine. It's like when you binge-eat junk food and your body begins to crave real food (fruits, veggies, grains, meat, etc.), that's the way my brain and body were crying out for real purpose and real substance. Binge-watching television shows I grew up on (Columbo; Murder, She Wrote; Home Improvement; Walker, Texas Ranger) ended up being less exciting than I remembered them being as a kid. In fact, I kept being struck by how "soap opera-esque" they actually were. I remember loving these shows once upon a time...but what I realized this week is that I've changed. 

I found myself desiring a reset. 

With one week remaining in Florida, I got back to work. While we still spent time in the evenings watching a movie or a World Cup match, during the days I focused more on my online work (proofreading and editing). I set up the timers on my phone again to fight the urge to doomscroll. I listened to music and took the paper books I brought out of the bag and had them easily at hand for moments when I felt like turning a page rather than changing a channel. 

Figuring out that who you once were and how you once used your time is no longer who you are or how you want to use the time that you have...now that's magical. 

Photo by C.G. Koens, onethousandpens.blogspot.com

So what did I end up reading in June? The answer is not as much as I would have liked, but I took advantage of a four months free trial for Amazon Music Unlimited, which included four free audiobooks as well. I have never been a fan of audiobooks, but free is free, and as I've been in the mood to re-read Emma M. Lions (yes, already!) and I'd heard good things about the narration of the EML audiobooks, I decided to give Vol. 7 an Audible try. I'm not counting it as another read for the year, but unofficially, it's another book. In addition to that, here are the other two that I ended up finishing during the last week of the month. 

1. An Assassination on the Agenda by T.E. Kinsey - ⭐⭐⭐ I've read most of the books in this series and while I cannot say the outcome was a total surprise, I will say that I liked Lady Hardcastle and Flo getting the jump on those who assumed they would be easy to fob off because they were female. There was a delightful chemistry between the characters, as always, and it's always enjoyable when Lady Hardcastle's brother shows up. The sibling interaction never fails to be a fun addition to the stories. If you're looking for a light summer read about two British ladies (well, technically one British lady and her Welsh maid) saving the world from war (at least for another few months) and throwing the world of men into a tizzy by breaking out of their box, I recommend you give this series a try. {Amazon Associates Link}
2. Sinister Spring by Agatha Christie - ⭐⭐⭐⭐ This collection of short stories gets at least 4 stars, simply because it's Agatha Christie, and she's a standard 4-star storyteller. These are all selected stories from other books or short-story collections, so don't expect anything new, but still enjoyable. However, much like the Midwinter Murder collection, I would give this particular version five stars ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ solely based on the the binding and interior paper...visually, it's a beautiful book and a gorgeous addition to any bookshelf. I'm stoked to add this to my bookshelf and am looking forward to giving Midsummer Mysteries a go in July. {Amazon Associates Link}

Farewell June, Hello July! 

Happy Reading, everyone!

26 Simple Goals in 2026

In keeping with tradition (well, from the last two years anyway!), I spent some time coming up with a list of 26 things to work towards over the next twelve months. If you read my last post, you'll know that these are simply things that I aim towards, giving me something to check off on the days that I accomplish them, and things to help me stay focused when the world is going crazy. When my mom got sick last spring, even on the days when I was at their house all day, every day, I stuck to some of my goals like glue. When I couldn't control anything related to my mother's battle with cancer, I could scrub the individual grout lines of our bathroom floor (one of my simple goals: clean something in the bathroom every day). By the time my Mom passed away, our floor had never been so clean (we have small tiles and lots of grout) and dust bunnies were running for their lives in our bedroom. I remember talking to a friend about it at the time, and her perspective was that it gave me normalcy. Something to focus on besides the fact that my mom was dying. She was right, of course. During that season I never missed a day of walking either. But I needed to breathe, to be away from noise, and have time to process. Walking (another goal) gave that to me. 

Although sometimes we see goals as things to beat us up when we don't accomplish them, I prefer to see them as opportunities each day to celebrate when we do. So what if I didn't walk 5 days a week all year? Most weeks I walked at least 1-2 times, and that's more than I had been doing, so it's still a win. So what if I had to change my reading goals from five books a month to three? My mom got sick and life happened and I still managed to read 36 books last year. That's a win. Perspective changes everything.  

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Not knowing what 2026 will hold (after all, I still have one aging parent and two in-laws, four teenagers - one of whom is college-bound, and a 20-something daughter; I homeschool and proofread and mentor, and let's not even talk about laundry and feeding people!), I stuck with the theme of simple, doable, goals. Areas where I want to continue to grow, where I've already made some progress in the last two years, but that still present a challenge to me, so achieving them feels like a success. 

26 in '26

We'll start with the low-hanging fruit and then move on to the slightly larger goals.

1. Intentionally spend time with my dad each week - this could be dinner out, having him here, taking food to him, or just stopping by to say hello.
2. Intentionally connect with family who are not local to me (text, phone call, cards, etc.)
3. Getting up when the alarm goes off at 5:30 - this is intended to give me space to think, pray, read my Bible, drink coffee, and generally wake up and prepare for the day before school starts at 8:30.
4. Read 24+ books - I'd love to hit 36, or 48, or 60...but I'm holding this goal loosely.
5. Read 1+ chapter a day from a physical book (paper, in my hands, not Kindle)
6. Clean one thing a day in our bathroom - this could mean a 30-second swipe of the counter, or a full-on hand scrub of the floor, depending on the season of life I'm in!
7. Clean/dust something every day in our bedroom (same simple rule as above)
8. Implement "simple cleaning schedule" in a new room each month (living, dining, library, etc.) - I've always hated cleaning, so finding a way to make it less of a dreaded task and more of a "no big deal because it's 30 seconds, not 30 minutes," is the ultimate goal here.
9. Pick one day a week to purge the same number (or higher) of items as the date - so a version of the Minimalists clean out challenge, but just four times a month (4 items on the 4th, 15 items on the 15th, etc.).  
10. Stick to my Christmas and Birthday budgets - I say this every year, that I'm going to go smaller next year, but we really have come to a time when financially and mentally, it doesn't make sense to continue to add stuff to the household. All our kids are getting older, and experiences (or cash) are more appreciated.
11. Make "No Spend Month" the standard rather than the exception - I really don't need anything, but social media and Amazon and bored browsing tell me otherwise, which means those habits need to change as well.
12. Buy no new physical books - I am once again at a point where I have an overwhelming number of books already on my shelves (added to this year), and since I'm working on the budget as well, this seems like a good way to work through what I already have! I'll leave it open for ebooks, as long as I'm using existing credit for them.
13. Save cash for special events - I already have envelopes and checklists set up for this, I just need to be intentional about utilizing them (and filling them).
14. Refill Savings accounts - we have multiple accounts for different spending requirements, but this last year I had to pull from all of them, so it's time to buckle down and repay myself. And on that note...Goal #13...
15. Lunch and dinner at home, 6 days a week (minimum) - back in 2012, when the Hubs and I buckled down to pay off in one year what remained on our mortgage, we limited ourselves to going out to eat once a month. Add 14 years and a handful of kids and going out even once a month is almost cost-prohibitive. Chick-fil-A costs $80 for six of us to eat. The local Mexican restaurant is $150 with tip. So this is really a necessary cut, but makes it more fun if I call it a "goal" and then get to mark it as successful. 😉 
16. Travel somewhere and/or make time to regularly do something fun - this might mean spending some money or getting creative, but the time with kids at home is fleeting.
17. More family movie nights, more intentional time together - see: time with the kids at home is fleeting.
18. Work on photo books monthly - every year for Christmas I make a photo book of everything that's happened in the last twelve months and then have it printed for our kids and my dad. I'm always rushing around at Thanksgiving, trying to get it done so I can take advantage of the Cyber Monday sales. This year, I'd like to work on the book at the end of each month so that when Thanksgiving comes, I'll only have to put in November's pictures and it won't be as rushed or stressful. 
19. Get back into Duolingo French - I've still been using the app daily (a goal from 2025), but I've been focused on learning chess and have gotten away from French. I'd like to become more proficient at actually understanding the language.
20. Watch French language YouTube channels and/or shorts - to assist with the above, and could also be French subtitles on movies I know well.
21. Learn/practice ASL - Last year the Hubs and my kids all started learning ASL. I was in the middle of caring for my mom when this happened and my brain couldn't take on anymore at the time. However, I just purchased Lingvano Pro for the year at 50% off, and I want to make sure I get the most bang for my buck there. Which means I have to use it.  
22. Get moving again - I never did pull out the stationary bike in the basement, and although I did walk more (outside) last year, I'd like this to become something I'm more intentional about doing in 2026. 
23. Drink more water (80 oz. a day - minimum), cut down on sugar (special occasions only, not 4 PM cravings!), and smaller portions - I'm at a season of life where all the things that always worked no longer work. I've accepted I will never be the size I was at 25, but I'd at least like to be healthy as I turn 45 this year.
24. Don't be afraid to pursue jobs that scare me - meaning, jobs that I don't feel qualified for, or jobs that stretch my knowledge base. I come across as confident in many ways, but secretly I fight a lot of impostor syndrome. 
25. Rent a dumpster or set aside a week for a full-house purge this summer - In addition to the regular purging days, it's time for a major clear out. Both the hubs and I are feeling overwhelmed by all the stuff that has collected in our basement, garage, cabinets, closets, and drawers. The time has come. And since we'll be kid-less this summer, seems like a good time to purge.
26. More analog, less screen - I've already been attempting this. With aging parents (and new drivers) we cannot go totally without a phone (emergencies happen), but I want to focus on being more present when people (including my kids) are around, and even when they're not, not to be so tied to the "glowing oracle that rots my brain."   

And there you have it, 26 simple goals in 2026. Okay, some simple, some not so simple. But all of them doable, depending on my motivation and how much time and energy I'm willing to invest. Honestly, I think if I focused solely on #26 (staying away from my phone more), I could probably easily achieve all of the previous 25 goals. It's amazing how much time is sucked away from that stupid little box, not to mention brain cells. 

So what say you? Join me in my quest for simple goals and daily achievements? Join me in setting aside the electronic device that you may very well be reading this on right now? Join me in rejoining the world and making the most of the time that we have been given on this earth? I hope you will!

Here's to a healthy, joyful, and growth-filled 2026!

Share some of your goals in the comments!

3 Lessons from 2 Years of Simple Goals

For the last couple of years I have made the decision to select a handful of "simple" goals to focus on during the year. This has allowed me to keep the momentum going while not feeling like a total failure by the end of January. Whether it's the goal to read more (even if it's just a page or two a day) or move more (walking the driveway once or twice a week) or eat better (put down the cookie, drive past Starbucks without stopping for a calorie-laden treat), being able to check off a box gives me a little boost and keeps me coming back for more. 

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My first list was "24 in 24" and in looking back at it now, I am so thankful for some of those goals, such as intentionally spending more time with my parents. In December of 2023, when I made that one of my simple goals for the year, I had no idea that my mom would be gone in June of 2025. But for a year and a half I intentionally stopped by their house, made time for meals, and encouraged my kids to spend time with their grandparents. And now that she's gone, I'm not sitting here full of regrets. 

LESSON: If you're putting off seeing someone because the timing is inconvenient, STOP. Call them. Write an actual card and mail it. Stop by their house and spend an hour talking. Invite them over for a meal or offer to bring food to them. There will come a day when that is no longer an option, and you will wish that you could.  

In my "25 for 25" I kept some of the same goals (like spending time with my parents) and tweaked others. Again, in looking back on the goals I set towards the end of 2024, even though I didn't know what the year would hold, I'm actually surprised by the number of them I was able to mark off, even with all the curve balls. I tweaked those goals a bit last January, and I'm so glad I did. Not only were we more intentional with our time, but we took three trips this year and made lots of family memories, we did special events out of the blue, and we were able to focus on different kids at different times. 

LESSON: Aim for something and you'll have a better chance of hitting it. Leave it up to chance, and you'll be left with nothing but a pile of regrets and no time left. It doesn't have to be a trip to Disney with the whole family, it could be $1.50 slushies from the grocery store on a random Tuesday. Don't put a price tag on being together. 

And so here I am, with 2026 bearing down on me, minus one parent, with four teenagers in tow. Our calendar is full, plans are already in process for sending four kids overseas for seven weeks this summer (and we get a temporary empty nest!) and then one kid off to college a week after they return. My dad will be 85 this year, so anything could happen there. I have a physical list of things I need to get done this week, in January, in the spring, before August...you get the idea. 

LESSON: Life never slows down, it just changes. There will never be the "perfect time" to do the things you want to do, so go ahead and make the list. Fix dates on the calendar (in pencil!). Make (refundable) plans. Be intentional with your time, money, goals, and brain space. If you want to read 50 books in 2026, then that means you need to carry them with you, use the Kindle app, and say NO to doom scrolling and binge-watching. We don't get more time, but we do get something of a say in how we use what is given to us. Use it well. 

Are you setting goals (simple or not) for 2026?

Care to share? Hit me up in the comments! 

Playing Catch-Up (or What I Read in July)

A confession. I actually finished one book in June, on the very last day of the month. But I already had my June post written, and so I'm counting it for July, because there's no one to say that I can't. There are no rules in this reading goal, just happy dances when reading actually occurs. 

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So after a strong reading start to the year, and a total halt to the reading goals while after my mom got sick and passed away, this was the month where I was hoping to get back on track. {Spoiler!} That didn't happen. But at least I got back into the reading groove and got SOMETHING marked off the list! We'll start with the one book that I finished in June, and then moved into the July books.

1. Gangsters vs. Nazis by Michael Benson - ★★★ I started reading this book in March of 2023. That should tell you something right there. It was one of the "Amazon Prime Reading" offerings, and the premise was intriguing: Jewish mobsters who fought (literally) the Nazi-sympathizers in the U.S. prior to WWII. I'm giving it three stars because, again, it was an interesting story line, mostly unheard of (by me) prior to this book, but the writing just didn't hold my attention. Too many names, too many locations, not enough direct information (a whole lot of, "here's what we know"). I was glad I didn't pay for the book, and I wouldn't say, "grab this" unless you saw it as a Prime Reading option again. And for that reason, not even linking it. 
2. Rocket Men by Robert Kurson - ★★★★★ This may be the best book I've read so far in 2025. The author does a fantastic job of incorporating his interviews with the astronauts themselves (something that's basically impossible to do now that so many are gone) and the folks from NASA, and really putting the reader in the captain's seat, so to speak. The way he goes back and forth from the decisions that led up to Apollo 8 saving 1968 to the backstories of the three astronauts and their wives, to the epilogue, was just really well done. If you like space stories, this is a good one. I knew how it turned out and was still on the edge of my seat (the mark of a good writer). If you aren't into space...this is still a good book. Bonus: these are the only three NASA astronauts whose marriages survived the space program, so it's a love story as well. Three, in fact. Worth reading! Five stars. {Amazon Associates Link}
3. The Year at Thrush Green by Miss Read - ★★★★ I haven't read a "Miss Read" book in a while, but the kids got me the last three I didn't own this past Christmas, and it felt like the right time to dive into an easy, cozy read. Something that didn't take too much brain power to enjoy and put me in a lovely English village in "simpler" times. And I was right. If you've ever read and enjoyed the Mitford series by Jan Karon (based on life in small town NC - in fact, based on life in Blowing Rock), you'd probably enjoy Miss Read's books. Lacking the spiritual spin of Mitford's Father Tim, it's still a really lovely set of fiction about life in small town England in the 50s and 60s. In this particular book, we go through the year (starting in January, ending in December) with our friends in Thrush Green, and there's a thin story line that runs throughout. You don't have to have read any of the previous books to enjoy this as a standalone, but it helps if you have. Four stars. {Amazon Associates Link}

I made good headway on two other books in July, but didn't manage to finish them in time. Along with not getting this blog posted in time. But if 2025 has taught me anything, it's that LIFE HAPPENS. Don't sweat it. It's great to set reading goals, but the important thing is to make time to read, even if it's just five minutes at the end of the day. Read for fun. Read for pleasure. Read for learning. Just read. 

See you in a month!

My Lonely Bookshelf (What I Read: May)

The beginning of May, my 84-year-old mother was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. There is no cure, and the treatment that they hoped would give her some relief, didn't do anything for her. Within a matter of days she went from walking on her own to shuffling around with the assistance of a walker. 

My days also changed, from wrapping up another home school year with the four at home, to becoming a full-time nurse and caregiver, taking care of my mom, handling her new medications, sitting with her at the oncologist, talking to doctors, learning about Hospice, conferring with family members near and far, setting up a Meal Train, comforting distraught friends, making sure my dad was still eating and had clean clothes, and more. 

And while I've had my share of time just sitting and waiting, my brain hasn't really been in reading mode. I did, however, manage to continue to read some each day in my Kindle app, and I did finish one book. Rather than choosing to focus on the goals I'm not meeting, I'm choosing to focus on the fact that one of my other goals, spending more time with my aging parents, is being more than met. Although it's not exactly what I was thinking when I set that goal, I'll happily take it, and no regrets. 

Go hug your parents if they are nearby. If you can't, pick up the phone and call them. See how they're doing. Ask about their day. Tell them you love them. It can all change in the blink of an eye, so do it while you can, and don't leave room for "I wish I had...." 

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I'm sad to say that the one book I did manage to finish in May wasn't even that great, but I'm still glad I read it. Even though I didn't love it, it did give me some new ideas and food for thought, so I'll count that as a win.

1. Intermittent Fasting Transformation by Cynthia Thurlow, NP - ★★★ The title and idea of this book promised a lot, but in the end I didn't really find it to be sustainable. There were aspects of this book that, while reading, I thought, "Well, that might be worth a shot," but she lost me when it came to actually measuring the grams of food. I appreciated her focus on fasting around cycles (for different ages of women), and how that affects the outcome of IF. Lots of recipes in the back, but as someone who is still feeding five other people every day, I am not in a position to make two separate meals, and my kids wouldn't go for these, so...just take the good stuff from here, and tweak it to fit the life you have. That's what I'm walking away with. Three stars. {Amazon Associates Link}

I have several new books in process, even if it's slow process, at the moment, and added in a re-read (for the fourth time) that sounded like it would be enjoyable (James A. Michener's The Source). Even though I'm not currently meeting my five-books-a-month goal, I am reaching my "read daily" goal, so choosing to focus on the small wins for now. There will be future seasons when I have lots of time for reading and no ability to hold my mom's hand, which puts everything into perspective. Choose wisely.

Focus on the Positive

A friend recently pointed out that she tends to listen to her inner critic and focus on all the things she didn't accomplish, all the ways she failed (even if it wasn't an actual failure). But when she sat down at the beginning of the year to review her goals from last year, she decided to focus on the positive instead, rather than honing in on the goals she didn't meet. And lo and behold...her list of "wow" moments from 2024 grew before her eyes. 

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I thought this was a brilliant observation. How often do you look at the negative, focusing on all the things that didn't work or that you didn't try or didn't do? And on the flip side, how often do you celebrate the "little" wins and appreciate the steps you took to do something different? With this in mind, I'd like to publicly put out there my list of "wows" for 2024, and encourage you to take some time to process your own "wow" moments from the last year. If my guess is correct, you probably have more of them then you might think...

• I only walked one day the week of New Years. Since June, I walked an average of 5 days a week for 6 months straight, after being a couch potato, basically since 2020!
• I only lost 7 lbs. this year, and now I'm stuck. I started intermittent fasting in April and am still doing it and feel better overall than I have in a few years!
• I only read one book in December. I set a goal to read 48 books this year, which I completed in August and went on to read 62 books for the year!
• I didn't save for a vacation like I planned. We took the kids on multiple "adventure days" and splurged on local events and meals that made for great memories!
• I didn't have time to invest in local friendships. I was surprised by a couple of friendships that developed over text and have become lifelines on hard days!
• My husband had to close his business. We took a leap into a new venture and so far it's paying the bills and God has provided even more than we expected!
• I didn't get as many outside work gigs as I hoped. I heard from an old client who responded to an email I'd sent months earlier, which provided income right when we needed it!

Do you see the difference? One viewpoint only looks at things through the lens of failure. The things I wanted to accomplish but didn't. The other focuses on all the good things that did happen! I'll be honest, as an INTJ, I'm not great at looking at the positive (realism is built into my DNA!). But this was such a good exercise in recognizing, not only how many good things happened over the last year, but all the ways I changed in my mindset and outlook along the way.

What are your "wow" moments?

 

Big Picture (25 in 25) Simple Goals (a.k.a. #DoSomething)

I was recently chatting with a friend and we were discussing goals and goal setting, as well as just making time to look back and appreciate what we accomplished last year and how far we've come. As an INTJ, there is something so satisfying about making lists and setting goals. It's not about trying to prove something to the world, it's just setting the bar higher for myself, because, as I have been known to say for years now, "There is always room for improvement." Not only do I set the bar high for those around me (I don't expect perfection, but I do expect you to try), but I hold myself to the same standard of not just staying in my comfort zone, but constantly learning something new. 

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Around October of last year, shortly after Hurricane Helene wrecked havoc in the mountains of eastern TN and western NC, my motto became, "Do Something." It didn't matter if it was big or small, if it only affected me or if it involved the whole family, I no longer wanted to assume that tomorrow was a guarantee. As a Christian, I have always known and quoted the verses in James 4... 

13 Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 15 Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” 16 As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil. 17 If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

But having the reality of this literally fall into my backyard, to see people's lives uprooted, homes destroyed, roads washed away, dreams shattered, was a real wake-up call to stop putting off the things that I wanted to do "some day" and to start making them happen now. Maybe it wouldn't be perfect, and that's okay. Maybe it would cost money, but I was going to spend that money on something anyway. Maybe it was inconvenient or it would cause me to get out of my comfort zone, but putting everything off for a time when convenience was king would just leave me a year older with more regrets that I didn't take advantage of the moment of opportunity. And so I embraced the idea of "Do Something."

I have selected words or phrases in past years to help me keep my focus for the year, but this year I think I'm just going to keep going with the #DoSomething idea. Don't wait for the perfect time, doing something now is better than not doing anything at all. 

I came up with a general list of ideas for 2025 (leaving room for expansion) which I wrote about in November (you can read that post here). It was a good list. I like what I started with. And while I'm not ditching the ideas found there by any means, as I got to the end of the year and the beginning of a new one, I realized that committing to Do Something daily was better for me than big picture lists. So without further ado, here are the things I'm committed to working on in 2025: 

• Getting rid of 365+ things (I've already made a big dent in this, and am halfway through April!)
• Walk or bike five days a week (this will restart on January 6)
• Lower the grocery budget by $10/month - OR - eat healthier (I don't think I can do both)
• Write what #iamthankful for in a notebook, daily
• Monday-Friday, Instagram is turned off on my phone (and FB too), to stop mindless scrolling
• Read 60 books this year (average of five books a month)
• Commit to buying no new (or used) clothes or shoes for me in 2025
• Get out of bed 10 minutes earlier each month/earlier start to the day (which goes with...)
• Create a nighttime routine (skin care, vitamins, no phone, read paper book, hot tea, earlier to bed)

And as for those bigger goals, the ones that made the 25 in 25 list, here are a few steps I took this week to make those ideas a reality:

• I planned out special events (not even big stuff) and put them on my Google calendar (that I live and die by). Things like taking the kids down to the grocery store to get slushies for $1.50 after school one day a month, or taking them four times this year to our local Mennonite donut store to use the gift cards I planned ahead and bought during the holiday season so we could get the free $20 in bonus cards. 
• I spent time on Booking.com, planning out a summer trip and actually booking places to stay (with free cancellation), and setting up get togethers with friends along the way. That also allows me to know how much I need to set aside to for our vacation fund.
• I bought a bunch of apples at the grocery this weekend and we cut a lot of them up so they're easy to grab and snack on (crispy apples are even better than oily potato chips!).
• Knowing that my parents are getting older and it's not as easy for them to host us, I invited them to join us several times over the holidays, which they loved and we made more memories that we will treasure in years to come.
• As much as I dislike playing games, I know my kids love having "family time" - so I purposely ordered the Muppet's version of ClueⓇ, selected some special treats (most purchased 75% off after Christmas!), and we baked pizzas and spent New Year's Eve playing games, eating snacks, and reading through our box of memories that we had written down throughout the year. 

This week I was looking ahead to 2025 and the thought that crossed my mind was tempus fugit. Our eldest daughter (who has already flown from the nest) will be 21 this year. Our youngest will join three other siblings and become our final teenager. This fall we'll have two high school freshman, one sophomore, and one junior. We're planning a college visit this November. Before we know it, they'll be spreading their wings and moving on to the next segment of life, which I absolutely love and support, but it also takes my breath away. It always felt like we had more time to do the things we wanted to do, to take the trips, to make the memories. As it turns out, it's time to take my own advice and Do Something.

"The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is." 

~ C.S. Lewis

December's Bookshelf

It honestly feels like yesterday that I sat down at my desk and crafted my list of #simplegoals, which included reading 48 books over the course of the year. And yet, here we are. The year has passed us by, and I ended the year with 62 books read from my TBR shelf (both physical and Kindle). It just goes to show that sometimes you have to set a goal in order to make things happen. Even something as simple as making time to read more books.

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Since it was the month of festivities I wasn't sure how many I would finish this month, and as it turns out...that number was one. HA! However, the one I did manage to finish was a holiday-themed book from my shelf, which made it fun. 

1. Noel Streatfeild's Christmas Stories - ★★★ I wasn't sure what to expect from this book, but I had previously read Streatfeild's Ballet Shoes (thanks to the recommendation in You've Got Mail!) and I enjoyed the writing style, so I think my expectations were a little high for this one. It was simply a series of stand-alone Christmas-y stories, all with happy endings (so I can't complain there), but some of them felt like we'd jumped into the middle of a story and were missing context. This isn't one I would highly recommend, nor will I probably ever read it again, but it was still a super simple book to boost me into my December reads, so I'll take it. Plus, the cover is beautiful (nice for displaying). {Amazon Associates Link}

And now we're in a new month, the first one of the year! And the whole year is before us, ready for new series and new reading challenges. I'm gearing up for 60+ books this year, and looking forward to getting a reward now and then for my efforts. 

What book will you be starting out the new year with? 

An old friend or a new acquaintance? 

#iamthankful for BOOKS! (November Book Reviews)

'Tis the season of thankfulness, and one of the things I am the most thankful for has been the role of books throughout my life. Raised in a household of readers, encouraged to read young, read big, and read often, the title of "Bookworm" was a badge I wore proudly. And yes, there have been seasons of drought in my reading life, but like most things, these ebb and flow, depending on the stage of life. 

When we first adopted our five kids, I was barely hanging on to my sanity, and there didn't seem to be any time to read, and yet I knew it was a habit I wanted to actively model for them. During that period, I purposely went back to some childhood favorites - almost a comfort food, if you will - which helped me remember that this too, would pass. And it did. Eight years later, most of my kids can be found with a book in their hands (or at least nearby), and so my gratitude for the effects of books, both on myself and my children, continues to grow.

In October, I refocused on how I used my time, and brought my book total for the year up to 57 (out of a planned 48). I wasn't sure what November was going to look like, but as is the case in so many households, I knew that there was potential for some familial stress around the holidays (starting at Thanksgiving), and I knew that making time for reading (there's that sanity-saving factor again) was going to be important. That, in addition to counting my blessings, large and small.

• God's provision.
• My loved ones.
• Reliable transportation.
• Pumpkin Spice Lattes.
• Bookshelves of books.

The result of this focus (piggybacking off the "Do Something" goal of October) can be seen in the list of book reviews below. Some really good, one average, but none of them a waste of time, because they all made me think in different ways. 

1. A Song of Comfortable Chairs by Alexander McCall Smith - ★★★★★ It's hard to go wrong with a No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency book if you're looking for a quick, easy, comfort read. It's like the Mitford of Africa. This time, Mma Ramotswe is on the defense of Mma Makutsi's furniture-selling husband, Phuti, who is experiencing some financial difficulities after competition comes to town and continually undercuts his prices. But never fear, Mma Ramotswe has a plan, and as always, it is executed with precision and a little African charm. You can jump into any book in this series and immediately feel right at home. So brew a pot of rooibos tea and curl up for a cozy evening with the women of the best detective agency in all of Botswana. Five stars. {Amazon Associates Link}
2. The Answer is No: A Short Story by Fredrik Backman - ★★★★★ I had not read anything by this author before, but I came across his account on Instagram, and his posts often made me laugh. So, when this was one of the Amazon Prime First Reads in November, I didn't hesitate before downloading. It's only about 65 pages, so definitely in the "short story" category, but I chuckled all the way through. This man gets introverts. I felt so seen! The witty banter, the fear of opening his neat life up to anyone, and the absolutely absurd story of "the pile" were the perfect mix for me. In fact, I was reading this at my desk while the kids did school, and I kept having to put my hand over my mouth to keep from laughing out loud. Even though no longer free, it's still cheap ($1.99 as of this writing) and I would highly recommend downloading it for an easy, enjoyable read. Five stars. {Amazon Associates Link} 
3. Deadly Company by Ann Granger - ★★★ I've read several books by this author, but this one felt a bit rough. I'm not sure if it was a lack of editing (the phrase "the smile didn't go to his/her eyes" was used multiple times), or a rush to get it done (she wrote it in 2020 and even mention this fact in a note at the start of the book), with a rather thin plot line. It's definitely not my favorite. And while I wasn't sure who murdered whom, it wasn't actually a surprise when all was revealed either. I'd definitely start with one of her other books before recommending this one. Fortunately, I got this one using Amazon ebook credits, so it wasn't a huge loss, and it was still an enjoyable way to spend a late night reading. Three stars. {Amazon Associates Link}
4. Salt, Sugar, Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us by Michael Moss - ★★★★★ It took me a while to read through this book, and honestly, it was because, like the fatty, salty, sugary foods Moss uncovers, I was trying to process what he was saying and break a 40+ year habit of thinking any processed foods were better than others. Reading labels? EYE. OPENING. Why does ice cream have 37 ingredients, most of which I can't pronounce? What happened to cream, sugar, milk, and a handful of flavor ingredients? They're regulated to the $6/quarts, rather than the $3/gallons. I highly recommend taking the time to read this book. Take it a bite at a time, if you will. Do we still eat junk food? Of course. But it's no longer the standard in our home, just an occasional treat. The fruit drawer, however, is filled. Most meals are prepared and eaten at home. Fast-food is limited. Small steps, but I believe they are making a difference. Five stars. {Amazon Associates Link}

Hit me up in the comments with your favorite book from the last month!

Thinking Ahead (Simple Goals for 2025)

I know it's not January, but it's never too soon to start thinking ahead. I've been seeing posts about how fall is a new starting point for a lot of people. I think the thing I'd add to that is that any point in the year can be a starting point. It could be a random Tuesday in May when you decide, "I've had it. I'm going to start walking every day." And then you do it. Starting points are any time you've had enough of the old habits and you want a change. I have nothing to back me up on this, but my theory is that if you wait until later to start, you're probably not going to do it at all.  

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I've set a lot of goals over the years, but 2024 is the first year I've actually followed through on the majority of them - even though there were some starts and stops and restarts throughout the year. I think one of the biggest reasons for the changes this year is because I wrote my goals down in so many places. I made it public on the blog (for the six people who read it). I posted about it on Instagram (for the 15 people who see those posts). I wrote them in paper notebooks for my own reminder. I set goals in my digital notes on my phone so I could check in and check them off every month. I made new savings accounts for specific financial goals as a tangible reminder every time I logged on for banking stuff. If I don't keep it front and center, then other things take over and the goals fade into the background of busyness. 

Throughout the year I've had little thoughts here and there about the goals I'd like to set for 2025. And although it's a little early, and these aren't set in stone, I'm taking the first step towards making them happen by putting them out there for others to see. Last year I set 24 goals for 2024. I don't know that I'll set 25 goals this year, but this is the starting point. And since goals change and evolve over the year, I think I'll leave room to add to this list as the months tick past. Some are similar to the goals I set for myself this year. Some have slight tweaks. Some are totally new. And all of them stretch me in some way, which is really why we have goals, right? Because staying the same is boring. Let's not be boring.

2025 #SimpleGoals Starting Point

1. Read 60 books (five books a month) - preferably books I already own.
2. After completing 10 TBR books from my shelf, I get one new book. (If you're a child of the 80s, think Booking It, but for adults. Instead of a personal pan pizza, I get a new book.)
3. Add the stationary bike into the mix of exercise (I have it, I just don't use it).
4. Continue to walk 5 days a week, 20+ minutes a day.
5. Get rid of one thing a day (trash and junk mail doesn't count) for a total of 365 items gone.
6. Put experiences on the calendar and make them happen.
7. Once a week, do something special with the Hubs, even if it's just grabbing coffee.
8. Try 52 new recipes (one per week).
9. More fruits and veggies for snacking.
10. Say "yes" to something that challenges me (either personally or professionally).
11. Say "no" to things that don't add value (and work on not feeling guilty).
12. Loosen up. Keep rooting out that inner control enthusiast.
13. Be intentional about spending time with individual kids.
14. Plan a trip, put it on the calendar, save for it, make it happen.
15. Intentionally build relationships - with new people, existing acquaintances, and family.
16. Listen more. Talk less. (Definitely keeping this one from 2024!)
17. Spend time with my parents (another continuation from this year).
18. Find ways to serve the local community as a family.
19. Don't stress about what "might" be. (Another goody from 2024 that I'm keeping!)
20. Write down my #iamthankful list every day. A habit I've recently restarted.
21. ???
22. ???
23. ???
24. ???
25. ???

Have you started thinking about YOUR list?

Simple Goal Check-In (September)

In January I wrote a post outlining the 24 #simplegoals I had selected to work towards in 2024, and I gave a longer update in June about how things were going at the half-way point. As we're entering the final quarter of the year (mind boggling!) I thought now would be a good time to check in on those and let you know where things stand. 

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24 Simple Goals in 2024

1. Buy no new books. Two, maybe three books. Calling this a success! 
2. Read 48 books from my own shelves. DONE!
3. Use the treadmill. Walking six days a week since June 1st.
4. Put the phone down. TERRIBLE, but a work in progress.
5. Clean out and pare down. Some, but not as much as I was hoping to.
6. Save for a rainy day. Did well, had low income months, had to use it for bills.
7. Use cash for certain expenditures. Off and on.
8. Burn the candles. Two thumbs up! But...I also bought more. {Facepalm}
9. Create a repertoire of simple meals. Meh.
10. More fresh foods, less processed, sugary, high-carb stuff. Definitely working on this!
11. Avoid Amazon on bad days and late nights. Better, but room for improvement.
12. Say "yes" to something new at work. I just did, in fact!
13. Say "no" to things that don't add value. Much better at this!
14. Eat the food we already have. Working on this, but still room to improve.
15. Participate in teaching my newest driver how to drive. There's been a "pause" on that.
16. Save for a school trip in the '24/'25 school year. See "bills due, low cash months."
17. Host more meals with friends and acquaintances. There are seasons for this - yes and no.
18. Listen more. Talk less. I feel like I've improved in this area, but still room to grow.
19. Spend time with my parents. Time is fleeting. Been mindful about stopping by.
20. Give quality gifts, not quantity (next Christmas). Fewer gifts, for sure. Progress.
21. Build relationships with family. I think there have been some positive steps.
22. Write more. Shockingly, I've been faithful to write at least once-a-month on the blog!
23. Don't stress about what "might" be. I have been learning to let go faster.
24. Count my blessings. Work in progress.

Under the heading of each of these goals, I also set some sub-goals that give me baby-step achievements along the way. Something to celebrate and help with motivation. For example, when I set the goal of reading 48 books this year, I broke that down to reading at least four books a month. Obviously, there were months when I read more than that (and achieved my goal for the year sooner than expected), but setting that smaller monthly goal helped keep me on track and motivated to keep going. 

I did the same thing with using the treadmill, but I didn't figure out the sub-goals for that until the middle of the year. I had started out strong on the walking in the beginning (like most people when they set their New Year Resolutions), but then faded off after getting sick and having some calendar challenges. But in May, when I was fed up with my lack of self-discipline, I decided to set a goal for the month of June: Walk Every Day in June. About 10 days into it, after talking to a couple of my accountability partners, I decided to take Sundays off. So six days a week, I was downstairs, walking between 5-30 minutes a day. I gave myself a wide target to hit...making it easier to achieve my goal. I don't feel like walking...it's just 5 minutes. And usually, after 5 minutes, I would tell myself, "It's just 5 more, keep going." Which is how, most days, I ended up walking at least 20 minutes a day. 

In July I decided to change the target: Walk Six Days a Week, at Least 1 Mile. And I did it. In August, I decided to work on increasing my speed from a 20-minute mile, to less than 20 minutes. Didn't matter how much less, just that it was. By the end of the month I was regularly walking in the 16:50/mile range. Just by setting a smaller sub-goal to challenge myself, I was not only hitting my #simplegoals for the year, but getting a renewed sense of accomplishment each month as I checked off another goal. This month I decided I would take the first step to work my way up in mileage, by walking 1.25 miles every day, under 20 minutes. Not only is it good for my mental health, but I am noticing more stamina, less shortness of breath, and definitely better calf muscles. That's a win-win-win for simple goals!

How are you doing with your goals for the year?

Do you do a regular check-in to see how things are going?

It's not too late to set smaller goals for the remainder of the year!

The June "Simple Goals" Update

You may recall that when this year started, I set twenty-four simple goals for 2024. I've given a few updates along the way, but since I took one of those goals and broke it down into a monthly goal, I thought it was about time to update again on how things are going. As a refresher, these are the simple goals that I set back in January...and how it's going, six months in!

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1) Buy no new books. I was doing great until earlier this month. After I read The Worst Hard Time, I quickly added more of the author's books to my "Books to Remember" list. I had no intention of buying any of them before next year, but then I got on to purchase a book as a gift, and saw that several of his books were marked down (NEW) for 63% off...and, in a moment of weakness, I caved. In my defense (no, I know there's no defense here!), I did get some as gifts, but I will also be adding to my shelves, so...not counting it as a total fail (I made it six months!), but...

2) Read 48 books from my own shelves. At the time of publication, I have read 36 books from my own shelves (and a couple that were borrowed from my mother). Suffice to say, I am well on my way to achieving this goal.

3) Use the treadmill. I have had times when I have been faithful about this, and times when I have let it collect dust. In the interest of setting smaller goals, I decided to set a goal for the month of June: walk daily, for 5-30 minutes. If I successfully achieve this goal, I get a drink of my choice from Starbucks as a reward. I downloaded the HabitShare app to help me keep track. So far, I have missed one day when the Hubs convinced me to hang out with him instead, but otherwise, I'm on course to hit my goal.

4) Put the phone down. This has been CHALLENGING, but something I am daily ware of, and working on. I've been tracking my time usage each day and taking a screenshot of it to share with a friend for accountability. 

5) Clean out and pare down. This is a work in progress. But more has been going out than coming in. I think. It does seem, though, that no matter how much I clean out, there is always more. I'm not sure how that works, but I will blame the four kids who still live at home and move on. ;) 

6) Save for a rainy day. I set up several new savings accounts and have been slowly adding to most of them. Some are specific savings for things like our health expenses (so that is a continual adding too and paying from account), and home and auto taxes and insurance. Others are a general savings (for those "shoot, I need a little more in the checking to pay the bill" moments), as well as an actual Rainy Day Fund that I have been adding to (and titled "DO NOT USE"). I've been actively working on paying these accounts first whenever we get income.

7) Use cash for certain expenditures. The short answer to this is yes, on occasion. The longer answer is a little more complicated, so for now, let's just say that when we can use cash, we do, but we're not stressing over it.

8) Burn the candles. I have been very intentional about doing this, and I am loving it. In fact, as I type this, there is a "Peony and Apple" candle burning across the room and making our bedroom smell amazingly cozy. I even picked up a couple of new candles at TJ Maxx, on clearance, with the intention of burning immediately. When I finished the first candle, I turned the glass from it into a planter for a succulent I received for Mother's Day. Win-win.

9) Create a repertoire of simple meals. I'm better about this in the winter (thanks to my Crock-Pot) than I am in the summer, but we've been eating a lot of sandwiches and other convenience foods to help keep the desire to eat out at bay, and it seems to be helping. 

10) More fresh foods, less processed, sugary, high-carb stuff. Definite growth in this area. I've really been trying to stay away from the fake sugars, and have noticed an improvement in my overall health, but specifically my gut health. We've also been doing intermittent fasting for about three months now, and because of that, I find myself craving foods that fill me up for longer periods of time, since we only have a 4-6 hour window to eat. When I eat junk, I get hungry sooner. When I eat whole foods, the cravings are less. 

11) Avoid Amazon on bad days and late nights. It's so easy to hit that little Amazon app and quickly order something you "need" or have been thinking about, but I still see improvement. I think the focus on saving for specific things has helped with this. 

12) Say "yes" to something new at work. Not yet, and one thing I was considering I'm no longer sure I would say "yes" to, but I'm okay with all of that. If the stretch goal happens, great. If not, I'm totally fine.

13) Say "no" to things that don't add value. This is also a work in progress, but I have been learning how to say "no" when it doesn't work (or no longer works) for me or my family. I am working to prioritize certain things and people over other events, but more importantly, I'm learning how to be okay with that and not feel guilty for not being able to say "yes" to everyone and everything. Boundaries are a good thing.

14) Eat the food we already have. We had several months of doing this well, and then a month when I suddenly realized we were eating out 3-4 times a week! Yikes! So this ebbs and flows, but that's also why having a repertoire of simple meals is so important on the days when I'm tempted with takeout. 

15) Participate in teaching my newest driver how to drive. I'll be honest, I wasn't sure this one was going to happen. As a recovering control enthusiast...trying to teach a young and budding control enthusiast was not on the top of my "want to do" list. However, I will say that I have, in fact, gone driving with her, and we didn't kill each other. Yay, us! We still have a long way to go, though.

16) Save for a school trip in the '24/'25 school year. This is part of the savings project, and has its own savings account now, so I'm hopeful that this will happen. If not this year (just due to packed schedules, as well as money), at least next.

17) Host more meals with friends and acquaintances. We have definitely been more intentional this year about opening our home up more, both for meals and overnight guests. It's been good for us, and for our kids, to learn how to be flexible and say "yes" to people who need a space to be themselves and find encouragement. 

18) Listen more. Talk less. Work in progress. I like my words. But I'm trying. 

19) Spend time with my parents. Time is fleeting. This year, in particular, I have realized how true this is. As my father has been in the hospital a couple of times, and my parents are both getting older, I have been trying to make time in the schedule to stop by their house or meet them for lunch or just sit and talk. I know there will come a day when I can no longer do it, and I don't want to have regrets when that day comes. 

20) Give quality gifts, not quantity (next Christmas). I'm a year-round shopper, so I've been trying to keep this in mind as I've found things already this year for Christmas. I also set a lower budget this year, so that I really want to make the gifts count.

21) Build relationships with family. Towards the beginning of the year we took some steps towards this, but then life got busy and we haven't really made the progress in this area that I was hoping when I originally added it to the simple goals list. But I have tried to work on sending texts more often to those who aren't local. Baby steps. 

22) Write more. The very fact that I'm here, in the month of June, and I'm still writing, and, in fact, most months have written two posts, is proof of improvement in this area. The number of blog visitors isn't huge, but I think the difference this time is that I'm writing for me, rather than for the "reach."

23) Don't stress about what "might" be. There have been lots of "what if" situations this year, but I've been actively working to hand those over to God immediately, rather than letting my mind dwell on the things that "might" come about, or the conversations I "might" need to have. This, in turn, has lowered my stress level, and so I would give this a thumbs up (but also recognize I must be ever vigilant, lest I fall back into old habits). 

24) Count my blessings. At my work, they have a daily check-in to share things you're grateful for. This has become my place to share the good, the bad, and the ugly...and also how I am thankful for each of them. It helps me to refocus on what I can find to be grateful for in any situation, and to remind me that there is always a blessing to be found. I recently asked someone to tell me what they could be thankful for that day, and they responded with, "nothing." How sad. The sun was out, they were alive and breathing, they had a job, their bills were paid...and yet, nothing. Count your blessings. They are all around you.

 How are you doing on your goals?