Friday, May 31, 2024

May's Bookshelf was Rough...

By the 6th of the month, I had managed to get all four kids started in new grades (we homeschool year-round), but I hadn't read more than a few pages of a physical book, and only slightly more on my Kindle app. Some months are just like that (which is also why I read so much in the beginning of the year, because I suspected slower reading months would come, in part due to the busier and more chaotic seasons of life). 

Photo by Mari Potter on Unsplash

Some of the reading desert I experienced in May came from my choices in reading material. Most of the books below had been on my shelves for a number of years and it was time to read them or release them. And since I'm not very good at releasing without reading (or at least attempting to read), I powered through them, albeit a bit slowly. The first four star book this month came from my mother, who handed it to me and said I should read it. Kudos, Mom. And the last book...from a desire to wash the ick of the biography off.

Let me also say, preemptively, that I always feel terrible bashing a book in reviews. I've worked with enough authors over the years that I have seen firsthand the way in which authors pour their hearts and souls into their books. But in all honesty...some of them should never make it past the first draft. Sorry, ladies and gentlemen. And with that...I give you the reviews for May.
  1. Don't Overthink It by Anne Bogel - ★★☆ I gave this three stars on Goodreads and IG, but if I'm being honest, for me, it was a two star book. I feel guilty saying that because once upon a time, many years ago, I used to write a monthly book blog post with the author and another blogging friend, so it almost feels disloyal to give her book two stars. While the content could be helpful for those who are chronic over-thinkers, the reality was that, for me, it seemed a bit oversimplified. Then again, I'm an INTJ, researching and considering all the known (and potential) possibilities is what I do, but making a decision doesn't wear me out. So I gave it three stars elsewhere because I don't really think I was the target audience, and also, because I enjoyed her chapter on not overthinking splurges (I'm Scotch-Irish, I'm cheap, it's in my blood to fret over spending money I might not "need" to spend). Two-and-a-half stars. {Amazon Associates Link}
  2. Satchmo by Louis Armstrong - ★★ Not the most well-written book, but Armstrong is known for his gravelly voice and smooth trumpet playing, not for his 5th-grade education writing skills. I have loved the music of Louie Armstrong since I was six years old and my adult brother let me listen to Armstrong's album, What a Wonderful World. I don't recall where I first heard about Armstrong's autobiography, but it's been on my shelf since 2021.  I would have given the first half of the book (and his life until the mid-teenage years) four stars, but the latter half got a little iffy, not only with language but also with lifestyle. If you're at all interested in learning more about the humble beginnings of this jazz legend, I'd still recommend it, keeping the disclaimers above in mind. Two stars. {Amazon Associates Link}
  3. What She Ate by Laura Shapiro - ☆ That's right. Not even a full star. I, who never skim read books, found my eyes skipping over pages and paragraphs, looking somewhere, anywhere, for a book about six women and the role food played in their lives. It was about the stories of six women. Sort of. The chapter about Eva Braun was more about Hitler and the Nazi party than it was about her or any foods she did - or didn't - eat, and also happened to be the only chapter that held my attention. The thread of food that allegedly ran through the lives of these women was thin, at best. And most of the book felt like a stretch. A incestuous sister (or not, there's a lot of assumptions being made there), a cook who attempted to press herself into high society as an equal, the aforementioned Eva, Eleanor Roosevelt (who did, actually, have some really odd food menus at the White House), and the list continues. My apologies to the author, who clearly loved the idea of this, but it was a seriously boring book, lacking substance and cohesiveness, and I would not recommend. No stars and no Amazon link. 
  4. Being Elisabeth Elliot by Ellen Vaughn - ★★★★ All four of those stars absolutely belong to the author for taking a mass of information about a woman who has been the object of hero-worship by many (myself included, at times), and turning it into a very fair portrayal of a human being. Vaughn didn't shy away from the hard stuff, the ugly stuff, and the stuff that people who grew up on the stories of Jim and Elisabeth Elliot might not want to hear. Using Elisabeth's own diaries, her letters to friends and family, and interviews with those who knew her best, we gain a new picture of the woman who is most famous for her first season of widowhood. There were a number of stories and facts that shook every idea that I had of her - from her apparent *need* for a man in her life to her emotional and even physical affair with husband #2 before his first wife was dead - and about halfway through the book I was ready to chuck Let Me Be  A Woman out the window. The bottom line on this book should come from Elliot herself, who once said the only thing that belongs on a pedestal is a statue. One star for the subject (*GASP*) and four for the author. This cannot have been an easy book to write. {Amazon Associates Link}
  5. News from Thrush Green by Miss Read - ★★★★ After the duds from the beginning of the month and the heaviness of the Elliot biography, I decided I needed to read something light, to leave the month on a high note. It may not be the kind of book that causes me to think deeply about things, but a visit to Thrush Green never fails to make me sigh deeply and relax into coziness. It's not quite Mitford (lacking the Spiritual aspect), but if you're looking for a way to escape to a small British village in the middle of the last century, where a cup of tea and a good dig in the garden can do wonders for problems, both great and small, then you have come to the right place. In this book (#3 in the series), we find ourselves in the midst of the Piggott's domestic squabbles, finding homes for all of Dotty's surprise kittens, and wondering if a confirmed bachelor might have his head turned by the young widow (and newest village resident) across the way. If you're looking for a fun little series to take you away when the world feels heavy, I would heartily recommend giving any of books by Miss Read a try. Four stars. {Amazon Associates Link

What have YOU read this month? 

Best book? Worst? Meh?

Tuesday, May 14, 2024

Money's Tight (Another Fun Fallacy to Consider)

Fallacy (noun): a mistaken belief, especially one based on an unsound argument; a failure in reasoning which renders an argument invalid; faulty reasoning; misleading or unsound argument. 

Remember when I wrote the post about the fact that claiming you have no time for things was a common fallacy that many of us are ready to believe? I've been pondering this quite a bit over the last few weeks, and I believe I have another one: "Money's really tight right now." Before you get your knickers in a knot, let me explain. 

Yes, there are times when money just cannot stretch as far. Everything has gone up in price (I mean, seriously...groceries, gas, even the cost of used books is making me roll my eyes!). And there are definitely situations when you are wondering if it's time to look under your couch cushions and on the floorboards of the car to see if you can scrape together enough to pay the electric bill. We've all experienced lean times, and some of us are still there. And based on the shape of the country at the moment, I suspect it's going to get worse before it gets better. If it does. But I digress. 

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Whatever the future holds, this idea of "Money's tight right now" is also a prime example of faulty reasoning. Why do I say this? Because I've heard people say it, but their choices would indicate otherwise. Does any of this sound familiar?

  • Money's tight? Nice beach vacation photos on Facebook. 
  • Money's tight? I see you got your nails (or hair) done last week. 
  • Money's tight? I don't see you giving up your $6 cups of specialty coffee. 
  • Money's tight? Interesting since we ran into you while eating out. 

Lest you think I'm self-righteously pointing fingers, I'll be the first to point back at myself. 

  • Money's tight. Let's grab pizzas at Little Caesar's tonight, because I don't feel like cooking. 
  • Money's tight. If I stop at McDonald's their Diet Cokes are cheaper than a stop at Starbucks. 
  • Money's tight. I need a few more books for school and I couldn't find them at my local used bookshop, so I'll just click that "buy now" button on Amazon. 
These are actual examples of things I've said, thought, or acted on in the last few weeks. Yes, we are all guilty of being hypocrites from time to time, so what's my point?

Just like it was with our time, it's all about choices. 

We have time for what we make time for (vegging out on YouTube or reading a book; snacking on the couch or walking on the treadmill), and for most of us who are reading this, we also have money for what we want to have money for. Oh, maybe not everything we want (or want to do), but how and where we spend our money is still a choice for most Americans. I choose to shop discount stores and grocery clearance sales, use coupons, and eat from my freezer and I save a lot of money that way. But I also chose to eat out more often than I'm comfortable admitting - even if it's "just" $7 pizzas.

Take a look at the list below and see if anything here hits home for you (some of these I do, some of them people in my life would consider "common" and "necessary" expenditures).

  • Streaming services (Netflix, Hulu, Disney+, HBOMax, Spotify, etc.)
  • Amazon Prime (and Prime Channels, like Britbox, Acorn TV, or PBS Masterpiece)
  • Auto-refill on apps like Starbucks, Dunkin', or McDonalds
  • Pricey monthly phone plans and regular phone upgrades to the latest iPhone
  • Movie tickets (plus popcorn, candy, or drinks)
  • More clothes (honestly, our closets are bulging!)
  • Fast-food stops or ordering "To Go"
  • Expensive birthday parties for kids and over-the-top Christmas mornings
  • Yearly vacations to the beach, Disney, a cruise, flying somewhere, etc.
  • Food that you'll never actually eat (grocery shopping when you're hungry gets you every time!)

All of which takes me back to my original statement: We have money for what we chose to have money for. And I suspect I'm not the only one who does, so let's chose our words wisely. We need to normalize saying and thinking things like: 

  • If I don't have $20 for groceries, then I don't have $20 for my streaming choices.
  • If I want to take a trip next year, I don't have money for [XYZ] now. 
  • I can't afford lunch out, but I can invite people in for coffee or a bowl of soup. 
  • I'm choosing to save for [a car, a trip, retirement, kid's college, etc.] which means I have to say "no" to other things.
  • I have a lifetime supply of books I haven't read, so I don't need to buy one more. {ahem}
  • Or how about getting into the habit of saying these three things, daily...

I have enough. I am blessed. I am thankful.